To preface this I’m 24 AA/PR not your conventional straight hair mixed girl . we hit it off kinda great not going to lie about that. I thought he was my perfect-ish kind of match. I guess I was wrong. Idk , but he wanted to control my appearance which it’s fine with me it comes with tpe territory. I get up early as heck to straighten my beautiful natural hair and then curl it just for him… I sent pictures thinking it looked cute on me (even tho it pained me to put heat on my natural hair I fight to keep healthy for so long.) anything for my “daddy” . Wrong. he didn’t compliment me or anything his problem was the length. (I had curled it so obviously it’s shorter) but men don’t understand hair as much as we do ig.

i replied along the lines of (wigs/extensions exist it’s not that hard to you know add length to my hair) now I’m getting the silent treatment I think bc this is the longest he’s ever took to respond so far.

should I just cut my losses and find another dom who’s willing to understand my cultural aspect and way of things which isn’t much. I didn’t catfish I presented myself as is and was ready to go with the changes to grow and be molded into whatever he desired. I just feel really bad about my hair now kinda and I don’t even think I want to step out and put myself here into the scene anymore…I’m really sensitive and I think he ruined it for me. i just need guidance as he was my first encounter with a dom. And im scared bc of my race i wont have luck finding a dom anytime soon. I dont want to cry but its awful i never felt this before all over hair…smh