My ex and I broke up. We had established a relationship for a year and a half before exploring any idea of BDSM stuff (I was new to sex so it took me a while to even think to explore kinks). (I’m 28 yo F). I really liked what we had because it wasn’t forced. It was organic and healthy. We were 24/7 with rules. I like TPE.

Now that we’ve broken up, I’m wondering how can I find an “organic” Dom? I worry if I bring it up too soon it will feel forced or inauthentic or that I’m attempting to recreate the dynamic my ex and I had (he had his first manic episode which is why we broke up 😔). I don’t want to be disappointed if I do it with someone else and it’s not as good