I am honestly so sick of trying to date as a submissive. If I'm not dealing with just the absolute scum of humanity trying to pass themselves off as a Dom just to thinly cover their lack of respect and understanding about kink and boundaries, I'm dealing with what seems like an unending slew of folks who have already found a partner wholly engaged in their dynamic! Most seem to have just "met and fell together".

Not to mention, in my area, the pup scene has dominated a majority of the kink communities, and it feels like the majority of folks I meet want to start with pet play first, before any other possibility. That's fine for them, but I am NOT A FUCKING PET!

I just, I can't. I'm so fucking tired, I've spent the last 2 years looking, going in dates, putting myself out there and all I have is another mark of abuse and a 2 month recovery, while people I know who are genuinely irresponsible and unreliable seem to get all the attention! If it's not trendy twinks, it's muscle cubs and bears. Where is the love for a chubby bear like myself who's working out, going to physical therapy, going to therapy, engaging in the community and doing community service? When is it my fucking turn?!