I'm a [27M] sub. I've been looking for a soft-dom woman for two years at this point. I've had some interactions online, but none of them pleasant. It seems like the only thing I can find are people who are into Findom and nothing else, or Sadists. Nothing wrong with that, to each their own; but if I mention the fact that I'm poor and I'm not into either, and then said person gets angry because I set that limit, then we have a problem. I don't want to place myself in a situation where I dont feel safe or to remove my limits out of desperation.

I tried attending events, and looked online, but I can't find the person I'm looking for where I live. I'm broke so I can't afford to travel far. It feels like happiness is locked behind a paid subscription to an airport. I also have to compete with so many other subs looking for the same type of person, and there's only a few Doms in comparison. I never seem to be what Doms are looking for anyway.

I feel like life would be a lot easier for me if I wasnt a male sub. I'm exhausted. I'm depressed. All my efforts have been dead ends and false hope, and I'm running out of ideas. I've grown bitter seeing other people with their doms while I waste away energy in vain. I guess this is a bit of a rant. Perhaps I'm just trying to cope inside before I leave the scene. It just hurts. After spending so much time learning and getting excited about D/s dynamics, and finding out that I'm not weird or the only one who's like this, only for the outcome to be the same, as if I hadn't learned anything at all.