New to BDSM and was actively seeking a psychosexual focused power exchange with a Dom for the first time.

Hoping to hear from others on how to approach vetting and early discussions. What aside from rapport building do you think the focus should be on? What questions do you suggest? How do you protect yourself from forming premature attachment and any general lessons learned you are willing to share be much appreciated.

My personal desire is equal parts sexual and psychological. I was extremely vulnerable very quickly and it unfortunately didn’t work out. While it ended respectfully, the abruptness of it all and such extreme high/low was more jarring than I anticipated.

I recognize this dynamic will always put me at risk. I would just like to know what more experienced subs have learned to help ensure I don’t repeat my mistakes.

Chat, dm or other Reddit posts/ articles welcomed. Thank you for any support.

** update based on DMs - I am not actively looking for a partner at this time and simply seeking information to feel better equipped for when I’m ready**