Hello. m26 here, sub and astray for a few years now. After about a year of being alone, I accepted defeat and started going out with a fairly sweet girl f20 who claims to be a switch, but she seems incapable of any dominant energy whatsoever.

We've been dating for about 6 months and over that time I've become increasingly uncomfortable with her. I made it very clear initially that I'm fully a sub, and I'm seeing very little effort from her.

I'm really scared of being alone again, but I can't see how I would present my desires in a way that doesn't seem like a cruel ultimatum. I've tried fetlife, subtle hints on tinder, obvious hints on tinder, with exclusively harmful results. I'm hoping for any advice you all might have for finding dommes, navigating the D/s issue with partners, or breakup advice. I've never broken up with anyone, and it's a very daunting endeavor to me.

Thank you for any and all comments