I have always had more trouble orgasming. It makes me feel limited because I require specific clitoral stimulation, no movement or I “lose it”, and even then I have trouble getting there (let alone multiple orgasms, which I never have). Occasionally I can cum from oral, but usually I have to use a vibrator because it just takes me forever to orgasm. Like, my partner’s fingers and mouth get sore. Not to mention I get very impatient and distracted (I have ADHD).

I want to learn how to cum without all the baggage of “oh, I need my special vibrator” or “oh, I need certain stimulation” or “oh, if you want to make me cum we will literally be here for 20 minutes”. I want to be able to cum when my dom tells me to! I want to cum from penetration too. Or, I want to be trained to cum from something specific, like anal sex or giving a blowjob. I am looking for any and all suggestions!

UPDATE:

Thanks to all who answered my question here! All the comments asking me to not worry about the duration of time it takes for me to orgasm are very appreciated. We need these reminders sometimes!

To add, there are some tricks I came across recently that have 100% worked for me, so it’s worth trying for you all.

1. Genital piercings. I got my VCH pierced, and the stimulation from this piercing has most definitely made it easier to orgasm. It’s not a miracle, but it’s an improvement. I’m looking into getting a triangle piercing for an even more obvious effect!

2. Laying off the vibrator during masturbation, even if it means I won’t cum during solo play. I have been humping pillows and using my fingers to get off. I use my vibrator with a partner only after I have cum at least once without using it.

3. Stimulation in my ear. Licking, biting, and whispering dirty talk in my ear WILL get me off when I am already close. Yay!

4. Olfactory stimulation. Especially body odor smells are likely to make me cum, fast

5. No more porn, use your imagination during masturbation. The only thing I sometimes watch is sex videos I made with my partners. But other than that, your mind is a powerful place so use it more often.

6. Sexually fantasizing with a partner, during sex. Why? It’s double the mental stimulation. They’re with you, touching you, licking you, etc., and you get to have them AND your fantasy sex at the same time. It creates this overwhelming feeling where you are totally ravished in every imaginable way. Definitely works if you need to get off fast.