Hi, I am pretty new to bdsm and I have a dom who is more experienced than me. He’s someone I have casual sex with. The first few meetings were just getting to know one another and starting to try kinky things we both already knew we liked. It escalated recently from impact play and I cried during a scene from pain/euphoria/exhaustion. I started experiencing the sub space/sub drop feelings for the first time.

He really liked when I cried so this most recent time, he made me cry on purpose. He was super rough right off the bat and once I was in sub space he started telling me he loved me, was so proud of me, and he told me my actual parents and friends don’t love me like he does. This is based on personal stuff I told him about my background. Obviously I see this was manipulation and in the moment it was really hot, but I need to hear from others about whether this type of thing is going too far. Was this toxic? I ended up having a lot of negative feelings in sub drop afterwards