My dom (M25) and i (F23) got into this relationship a year or so ago pretty accidentally. We both knew we were into bdsm and a ddlg dynamic but had never tried before. Once we start sleeping together the dynamic naturally formed and we participated in it for about a year and a half. We live long distance so we only see each other every few months. However, we text constantly and always in a dom/sub fashion It was a new experience for both of us and admittedly, we never research anything. In september, he told me he was going on a date (we were never exclusive, and always talked to other people, but had not gone on a date yet) but i was crushed. i sobbed and he comforted me but ultimately said we “should go back to being friends”. i cried more. i didn’t understand the level of hurt i was going through. i want him to be happy and to have fun. Reading through this sub makes me wonder if i’ve been experiencing a sub drop. we’re slowly integrating it back into our life, but he has someone new that he’s seeing (she’s a sub) and i can’t help but feel sad. he has always reassured me that i’m his favorite girl, his best girl, and his top priority. i don’t /hate/ that he’s seeing her. But i always feel a little sad that we’re not participating in it as much as we used to. Has anyone experienced something like this? How do you even navigate these types of feelings? i am completely new to this and these feelings. Any advice is appreciated.

edit: the new sub is poly and in an open relationship. they are strictly seeing each for hookups. i’m not sure that i even want a relationship with him, i just need help understanding these feelings. is it because we ended the dynamic so suddenly? we had the talk one night and it stopped from there. ever since, i’ve been needing constant reassurance from him and i’ve been searching desperately elsewhere for men that can give me the same feeling, same care, and the same love.