hey everyone! last night I had a customer that over the course of the night got really wasted….

he was throwing 100 every time I went on stage and giving me 100 dollar bills every 3 dances off stage.. so I was making money!

but after 2 and a half hours he was super drunk and started doing weird stuff to me. like I would be giving him a dance and he would grab my hands super hard (it would squish and hurt my fake nails/ my natural nail bed underneath) and then he would open my arms wide or stick my arms straight up in the air. and I would tell him to stop and that it was bothering me and hurting me but every 5 minutes he would do it again!!!

he also would twist my wrists like a jujitsu move and I told him i’m a skateboarder and I fall on my wrists often so they are very sensitive and he still would continue to do it another 2 times.

I told my manager but I basically said. this dude is spending money, idk what to do!!! because besides him it was a slow tuesday night. I ended up going back with him and of course 30 min later he did the wrist twist technique on me again and I was over it.

he ended up getting kicked out and I ended up being super upset, crying, wrist and nails hurting. and I went home early.

I guess the advice or support I need is how to have stronger boundaries with these men. like do I do a warning and then if he does it again I just leave??

I know that making good money is not worth getting hurt or messed with. and some of the other things he would do is use my arms to wrap around my own body kind of like a straight jacket. he was basically just controlling my body during my dances and he wouldn’t let me just dance on him

it was super weird because the first hour and a half this guy was great and I was actually really enjoying his company.

can anyone tell me something that can help me in the future because I just feel really weird about last night. I just can’t believe that this guy could hear me telling him to stop bc he hurt me and then 10 min later do the same thing again.

thank you in advanced 😭🩷