Hi, I’m in my mid 30s and have a partner who is quite happy that I make the occasional visit to a strip club with either her or my friends. Last weekend a few of us were out having fun and we ended up there. To my horror one of my students (don’t worry I’m a university lecturer!!) was dancing and I didn’t want to make her feel embarrassed. We were all sitting at a table well away from the stage and when she came around naturally I tipped her but she asked if I wanted a dance upstairs. (97% of me did haha) but I said no and paid her for one anyway. I have seen her in class and around the uni a few times since then and everything is cool - as it should be but should I tell her I have a stag party in about a month and there’s a chance we will end up there in case she’d prefer I didn’t go? I know it’s her job but I don’t want her to let my presence interfere with either her money on the night or education if she’s embarrassed at a later date.