I swear I can't stop running into people I know. Coworkers, my dad's friend, MY ACTUAL DAD. It's my fault for dancing in my hometown but I literally have no choice. I'm a full-time student and it would take 2 hours to drive to the next closest decent club near me. It's very inconvenient.

A lot of my coworkers at my normie job are international students from India. Like 99% of them. I didn't realize Indians would make up 60% of the clientele at the local club. None of the dancers ever approach them because they've developed quite a reputation of being touchy and pushing for extras. I've already had a few situations where I've encountered a few coworkers, some asked for dances, I refused, and they never gave me a hard time outside of the club or mentioned it.

I've reduced my shifts to weekends at my normie job and I work at the club about once a week, sometimes I go 1-2 weeks without working because of my studies.

Yesterday I went in and there were a group of Indian guys who came in. My manager came up to me and said he was outside having a smoke when one of the Indian men approached his friends and kept asking him for my name. My manager gave him my dance name, of course, and the guy kept saying ''No it's not, I know her, she works with me at (name of workplace).'' My manager is the ONLY one who knows my real name and my place of work because I've known him before I started dancing, and he knows how I keep this stuff on the DL. I don't even give my real name to other dancers.

My manager just feigned ignornace and told me about it immediately. He did point out to me that the guy was absolutely hammered, so he didn't think it would be worth it for either of us to confront him and tell him to mind his own fucking business and stop trying to give my personal information out to others.

But now I feel deeply uncomfortable. At my job it doesn't pay well enough but I've been there for years, get along with my managers, and they're very flexible with my schedule. Dancing earns me good money but it's unpredictable. Especially lately, the club has been dead so I haven't been making much money. With my normie job, it's at least reliable income, even if it's just a couple dollars above min. wage.

I'm afraid of this idiot blabbing to others and bringing all his friends and coworkers to come see my dancing. I'm afraid of my managers finding out and even firing me. I'm afraid of this dude giving me problems or blackmailing me if I confront him. Who do I go to for help if he harasses me? I can't just go to the police. I can't tell my manager that a coworker is harassing me outside of work without exposing myself. I feel like the walls are closing in on me.