i would venture to say that i’m a generally attractive person, and i get attention from men that would correspond with not being absolutely atrocious in appearance. that being said, it feels like my attractiveness or romantic power in possible relationships is so irrevocably diminished once i disclose im trans and it is so frustrating. like, the moment i reveal my transness im now no longer a “challenge” or something worth devoting a lot of energy into courting. suddenly im disposable and at best a sex object — what happened to all the dates you wanted to take me? what happened to romantic gestures and texts? what happened to simply getting to know me. idk - i’m post op and pass — so im starting to get disillusioned with disclosure it almost never leads to positive outcomes for me & i am much happier in relationships when i dont 🤷🏿‍♀️. advice? shared experience?