My wife and I are early 40s, together pushing 20 years. She’s been the receiver of anal play and sex for a long time, and we’ve done some anal play with me as the receiver, but last night was first time being pegged.

Equipment:

Harness: Strap U Flamingo Low Rise Strap-On Harness $34. After reading a lot of reviews and thinking about what we were interested in, went with this harness. My wife said it was very comfortable. She was extremely excited to put it on.

Dildo: Naturally Yours 5” Mini Cock $11. We went smaller than my instinct for first time just to be on the safe side. For $11 fine to upgrade later.

It was a great experience. Wife and I both had a blast. We knew going in this first time wasn’t going to go smoothly, so there was a fair amount of giggling. My wife got a kick out of “her penis” constantly bumping into things as she walked around the room.

We tried several positions. Missionary worked best. Doggy-style both lying in the bed and bent over the bed didn’t work because I’m taller than my wife. Cowboy was fun but need more practice.

Felt great. Wife finished me with a hand job while thrusting in missionary. The rhythm of that was quite challenging for her.

My two takeaways are

1. Add vibration cause it would add significantly to my experience for my wife to orgasm.
2. Bigger dong. 5” is fine but 6 or 7 would be better. Also, more girth. This one is 1” diameter. Want to increase in size sooner than later.

My wife was genuinely shocked at how much work being the giver is. She was worn out and sore. She’s an active person but the act of thrusting is unique and involves muscles she just doesn’t use. It was pretty funny.

Questions:

1. Is a curved ridged dong more effective at p-spot stimulation?
2. What’s a reasonable increase in diameter of dong? 1” to 1.25”? If 1” felt great with easy penetration, is only going up .25” too little?
3. Have ordered a Bumpher Honey Bunch to add in vibration, any other recommendations?