Hey everyone! My name is Krista, and I’ve been dressing pretty much my entire life.

I could go into detail about how I was ashamed of myself, growing up in a religious family, fighting my urges, but I’ll skip all that.

A couple of years ago, at about age 29, I had gotten to the point where I accepted that this was a part of me, but I still wanted to understand why I dress.

I had concluded on my own that I believed it was because I was SO infatuated with women, that I wanted to emulate one, and be one.

Growing up, I was constantly chasing girls. I never could focus on school because I was too busy trying to impress the girls. I don’t want to say “obsessed”, but I pretty much was.

Guys never caught my eye. Ever… but… when I’d dress, I would catch myself fantasizing about guys.. as soon as I was done, I would be disgusted with myself, because I’m not attracted to men.

So like I had said, I kind of had an epiphany. I believed I was so infatuated with women, that I wanted to emulate them, even their actions, behaviors (being with men).

I wasn’t sure how to label myself, because I definitely wasn’t gay, I’m very much into women. I thought “okay, maybe I’m bi”, but that felt wrong too, because guys never catch my eye in public like women do. Yet, when I crossdress, I find myself wanting to feel like a woman, if you know what I mean. So that’s where it had me so confused.

I sought out a sex therapist, and what she told me changed my life, and everything made sense all of the sudden.

She told me about the “Sexual Orientation Vs. Erotic Orientation” theory.

The best way to explain the difference is this: Sexual Orientation is who your eyes are drawn to when you enter a room, or who you’d want to marry. Erotic Orientation is basically what turns you on, or I guess gets you off.

The two usually match, but in some cases, they don’t, or at least differ a little.

She gave an example of a lesbian couple who were having troubles, because one of the women opened up about a fantasy about “being with” a group of guys. The other woman was upset, and was claiming that her partner wasn’t really a lesbian, but she insisted she was. It was a case of Sexual Orientation vs. Erotic Orientation.

So in my case, my sexual orientation is 100% straight. My erotic orientation, on the other hand, is very flexible.

I’ve found a term that seems to suit me well, and it’s “heteroflexible”.

Thanks for taking the time to read this, and I hope this helps someone as much as it did me.

There are videos on YouTube that cover this topic if you’re interested in researching it more.

Take care ♥️