We had a thing with somebody who came in with some stuff and responded adversely to hard advice they probably weren’t looking to hear. That happens a lot, welcome to StopSpeeding, you’re going to get honesty here. It’s part of what makes this place work. Unfortunately it devolved quickly from there.

I don’t know if you’ve noticed but in comparison to other recovery forums and online recovery communities, StopSpeeding operates with almost zero unproductive conflict, harassment, hate or drama. No in-fighting, no warring recovery philosophies, minimal bullshit. I’m the most abrasive person here most days and I’m obviously perfect so you all must be doing a great job.

People post things, they get an almost immediate response from members at different points in recovery from different recovery backgrounds offering support, empathy, understanding and potential resources that worked for them. Members take the extra time to answer questions in-depth, sometimes offering their time one on one to help further. They’re honest and direct, it isn’t some namby pamby thoughts and prayers shit, they tell people the hard truth as they see it and offer actual solutions.

That just doesn’t happen in many places. The community is what makes this an effective and worthwhile resource for stimulant drug problems lacking effective and worthwhile resources. There isn’t much of anything else out there.

People are going to come in and be a hot mess. They’re going to come here at different points in their addiction and recovery. They will be bullshit and snap at you and lash out and not want to hear things. Most of us went through these periods ourselves, where we were trying to use successfully or were in straight up denial or totally unstable from drugs or coming off them. We probably remember when people helped us regardless.

We don’t have to be nice but kind, kind is good. Nice is being polite and courteous, kind is showing you care, “care” in addiction and recovery can take a lot of forms and they’re not all nice. Regardless of the situation, when they swing, we don’t have to swing back. The general goal, as far as my best thinking, should be to give people the truth, share our experience and provide potential solutions while not pushing them back out the door because this could be the last stop for a lot of people. Most didn’t come here by accident. Not a lot of options for these drugs or the problems we help address, and with the current state of affairs, we’re going to get a whole lot busier.

Please continue being an epic online recovery community. We might be the best online recovery community, huge recovery, many people are saying this. When new people come in, show them why.