Not like the concept exists, but I couldn't come up with a different term.

By psychological allergies I mean things that annoy you, or that you can't stand at all.

For example, a misophonia towards people chewing would be a psychological allergy.

They have the characteristic, same as allergies, that somehow they're acquired, you haven't always had a strong reaction against those triggers, you just started feeling annoyed at those at a certain point.

I ask because my wife owns a pug, and she's a very cool dog, but with the passing of time, more and more of her quirks are becoming extremely annoying for me.

She whines for everything. She's got a very clingy form of separation anxiety that requires her to sleep ON TOP of my wife, so that she feels ok. She has to follow my wife, even when going to the bathroom (Velcro dog).

She's super desperate over food, and waits for other dogs to finish their plate to go and lick them, among other related behaviors.

She cries in the car whenever she thinks we reached out destination, and is screeches once we step off of the car.

I know it's an allergy because we have another pug we adopted this year, that may have similar behaviors sometimes (ie crying, although in a funny way, and being desperate about food), but I don't give a flying fuck about those behaviors, I actually quite like the dog.

That being said, my wife tried reducing those behaviors and listened to me when I expressed my annoyance, but now, whenever we spend time with my family in law, the dog prefers to be with them, than with my wife, because they award those behaviors. Every time that happens, my wife gets really sad and affected (ie "I take care of her, and love her deeply, but she prefers to be with my mother").

So I agreed I will be ok with her allowing the pug to indulge in those very annoying, for me, behaviors so that she doesn't stick with my mother in law whenever we share time with them.

My only solution is to find a way so that the pug doesn't get to annoy me. But honestly, I don't know how!

I know, when kid and teenager, I hated my brother snoring but at some point I removed that allergy, and I don't give a fuck if people snore when I'm sleeping. So removing psychological allergies is possible, but HOW?