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I am a practicing stoic but something really got to me recently. I am a guy who has his life together I have a buissness, good friends, dating two women right now (fun phase don't judge) I am decent looking etc. But more important I'm quiet secure in myself thanks to stocism and hard life experiences. Before I broke up with my last gf we use to take dance lessons for 1 month with a female teacher then when we broke up 3 months ago so decided to go alone, my dance teacher is really sweet and funny and really cool girl. We connected very well together honestly always laughing talking about things if she wasn't my dance teacher would think I found the one etc. She also really pretty to boot. I saw that she had her birthday so gave her a copy of sapiens and sidhartha two of my favorite books and saw she liked it so decided I should make a pass on her since it had been 3 months now of private lessons and developed some feelings for her. I told her I wanted to take her out for drinks granted I liked her a lot so was nervous and she said maybe so I told her would message her the details later. She randomly messaged me before I did and asked what time I wanted a lesson something she never does since I always messaged her about lesson time so I interpreted this as she is interested. So I asked her out with a cute inside joke we both have and she didn't respond at all, it's been two days and no response. Normally wouldn't think anything of it it's part of game and happens a lot with girls, but girls you don't knoww well. I mean we had quite a good friendly relationship for 3-4 months. I don't mind she rejected me and told me no or some other excuse I would take a step back and respect that. But ignoring me feels really not right way to deal with this and she's 29 were both adults a simple no or I can't or anything is enough she really disappointed me because she seemed to be a great person. I thought about not going to class or going to class ignoring things but I think this is cowardly thing to do and the right thing is not in angry way confront her that this isn't really what I expected from her and a simple no would be more then fine and understandable but this after us knowing each other quiet well seems off. I normally wouldn't confront anyone but I think in my heart it seems right. What do you think as stoics? I don't want to date her anymore because my opinion of her change has changed don't want to try again and ask her out again also as some of my friends advised me to do. Anyways what advice do you have for me.

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