It seems like many people think stoicism means not doing or saying anything at all whenever someone insults you.

Its true that nothing can harm you if you dont think that it harms you.

So some people who wanna practise stoicism just stay quiet and let other people do as they please. They allow others to humiliate them infront of others or give in in important matters.

But its also true that the obstacle on the way becomes the way.

That means that whenever you encouter a situation where someone is trying to humiliate you or attack you, its an opportunity to practise certain virtues.

If someone is shouting at you

1. Check your reaction

2. Ask yourself: What is the antidote for this? ( Think in terms of Fire-Water )

3. React in the proper way. Usually calm but also just.

Stoicism is NOT about being actionless. In fact its about doing the right actions, having the right reactions.

And if the subject you are debating about is important and you are confident that your position is Just, do not give in. Stay Calm but rock solid.