I’ve made a ton of progress on becoming my best self, and am confident in my thinking/reasoning, and am generally able to remain very calm and virtuous.

However, my spouse’s mom triggers me with her snide, passive-aggressive remarks and ignoring me as if I don’t exist while only talking to my spouse and child as if they are her possessions.

There are times I have to encounter her, and these events happen. This is not in my control. How would a stoic handle such triggering behaviors where you’re being treated like your spouse’s servant… or a baby making delivery system for her grandchildren? (And yes, I do realize her values are different than mine, however, if I saw this situation in nature where a mama bear and her cub were living peacefully when suddenly this grumpy old grandma bear pushed mama bear out of the way and moseyed on with cub and papa bear… while mama bear tagged behind… I’d feel sad for mama bear or annoyed with grandma bear). So even when I explore this conundrum externally, I still don’t know how I should react. Do I remain silent and let her have her way as I’ve always done? Do I start to defend myself?