After I broke up with my possessive, obsessive ex in 10/23, he harassed me through text until I changed my number in 3/2024. Throughout the time, he verbally abused, gaslit, and generally terrorized me (including sending me a screenshot of his twitter. His pfp was him wearing a custom mask I had been making for him and my bra. Both of which were unintentionally left at his place in my rush to get the hell out of that relationship.) At one point, he claimed that I “baited him into harassing me by ghosting him” when I actually did explain to him why I ended the relationship, it’s just that he didn’t accept the reasons. 🤷‍♀️

For at least a few weeks now, my sibling and I have heard someone walking in the rocks next to my window around 2-3am. We assumed it was the neighbors, until I asked them. They said it definitely wasn’t them. 😰

I’ve kept my sibling and mom in the loop 100% since before this whole thing started, everything from when I needed to talk through the breakup to when I had to call the police on him (my sibling even stood with me while I talked to them.) I even sent screenshots of some of his more frightening text messages, honestly out of concern that if he did something they’d need to be able to point the pigs in his direction.

Any time I bring it up, I get the same response. “That’s frustrating/stressful.” Then they change the subject, usually to something lighthearted like lawn decorating or what they’re having for dinner.

It feels like they validate then dismiss my concerns. I don’t expect this to have the same effect on them as it’s had on me, but I feel like they expect me to just brush it off. I talked to them separately about how I feel when they brush off my concerns, and they both said they just don’t know how to deal with it. I don’t know how to deal with it either, but I don’t have the privilege of ignoring it.

If I find and put together resources or a safety plan, they might skim and then forget them. Part of me wonders if they’re in denial, part of me wonders if they think I’m being over dramatic. Whenever I ask if they think that, they say no… but I don’t know. It doesn’t seem like they’re taking it seriously.