My wife (39) and I (56) have been married for 20 years and been in the lifestyle for a little over four. She's been with a handful of men since we started, all friends of ours and all have been MFM threesomes, and one of them, she plays solo with from time to time. We don't have a defined dynamic, I guess if we did it would be more along the lines of a stag/vixen dynamic. We like threesomes, she likes to solo play once in awhile and there's no cuckolding.

A few years ago out of the blue she was contacted on social media buy a guy she met a few years prior to that. My wife, who is a very sexual person, had their conversation very sexual within a matter of minutes. Exchanging naked pictures of each other, telling each other what they want to do to each other so on and so forth. She screenshotted me her message thread as soon as she started talking, because that was one of our first rules, was absolute complete communication and honesty. She also told this individual upfront that she was married and that I know everything that she does and she will be telling me. Which he seemed okay with, until he wanted to meet up with her. When she suggested they meet for coffee and that I would be coming along and he kind of got upset with the fact that I would be there. So I told her to tell him, that if he wants to fuck my wife, then he has to meet me so I can make sure that one, her safety is going to be okay and two, that he's going to take care of her sexually and pleasure her, that she is not some free use cheating housewife. He replied with gotcha and then went radio silent for a couple of weeks. Then he starts all over again telling her what he wants to wreck her pussy and do all this stuff to her, can't wait to hold her in his arms after they have sex and drift off to sleep together...enter rule no.2 no sleepovers. She replied that she doesn't do the sleepover thing, it's one of our rules. She also added that her husband wants to be there for at least the first time. Because we do threesomes, I'm very straight so he doesn't have to worry about any funny business. His reply was no, because he doesn't want to share her!!!! WTFO (what the fuck over) I told her You're not his to share we're inviting him into our relationship. Which she explains to him and then he ghosts her, for like 37 weeks!

For whatever reason she really, really digs this dude and wants to fuck his brains out. But I'm sticking to my guns, you are not going to disrespect me, disrespect my wife, or disrespect our marriage and think you're going to get a chance to fuck her.

So, after ghosting her for 37 weeks, he starts messaging her again and was right back to his old ways. Sending her dick pics telling her how bad he wants to fuck her, everything she wants to hear. Not going to lie, He's very good with his words and I love seeing her message him because she's having fun. She told him again we are a couple looking for a third and that if he wants to play with her all he has to do is meet with me. So we set up a date and a location, she got all dressed up, short dress with no panties on and this twatwaffle flakes on us!

So, ladies and gentlemen here's my dilemma. We have a great sex life, we don't need him or anybody for that fact, but I really enjoy watching my wife get fucked and it would be nice to see her get fucked by somebody she wants to fuck and not just one of my friends. So, do I hold fast to our rule of threesomes first, before solo play and let dead dogs lie or tell my wife if she wants to pursue this dude again she can and forgo that rule. I feel if I forego that rule then I'm not being true to myself?