Stipulating her requirements

After simmering for a bit the wife brought up something. We’ve discussed previously going the hotwife/ StagVixen (whatever label you want to put on it).

She was initially onboard and indicated if it was something I wanted her to do. After much clarifying she expressed that putting it in that frame work would allow her to warm up to the idea.

Now we haven moved forward for a few reasons.

-body image issues (very self conscious)

—having a mom bod and coming to terms with it

-sourcing suitors

—how to go about selecting filtering without coming across as picky.

Every woman is entitled to their choice and tastes. She worries on what man would confide in her physically. I have very much have supported her and attempted confidence boosting. What seems to open the way for her while still having these concerns are 3 fold.

-New year, new life

-A you only live once approach after a few stories were shared by friends and certain events.

-believe or not the Barbie movie, the female empowerment and brining to light equivalence and the double standard.

This could be considered the 4th reason, the trust invested into her with my heart on starting an adventure that we only tested briefly before settling down. The knowing whether she acts on it or not that she has the ability to fulfill the fantasy (hers as well) can be done together. She parades me around to her friends and family as her unicorn (without them knowing what she really means by that).

She knows what she wants and can articulate tool dimensions, age, body type and hygiene. There’s just 2 areas in regards to her preference she concerned about.

-how does someone with a mom bod and some padding stipulate they want a fit (read reasonable shape not an athlete though she would not turn that a way).

-her preference on packaging preference.

— cut vs uncut (for the record I’m uncut and it doesn’t bother her but I am “unusually” obsessed with being clean even before meeting her and never had a complaint)

—the usage of symbols and referencing that denotes what she would prefer. Most references to women who are size queens and into race play indicate QoS (Queen of Spades). What would be the opposite of this that would be recognizable? She’s done some research and has a slight impression that the lifestyle has to involve QoS preferences to get started. Would QoH (queen of hearts) more readily indicate what she’s looking for?

Is there anything she can do or wear to tip off those more inclined to know of her availability?

Where should we start our search to find someone not only compatible but sensitive to her hang ups? We are just barely moving into this and I believe if we could address her concerns and requirements she’d move forward.

I am in no way pushing. This was a fantasy shared with her which was sparked by how we came to be and I know she’d want to play. She even asked me why I haven’t bought this up to her sooner.

TLDR;

Willing and wanting wife has concerns and requirements and we need to have an idea how to navigate this.

Where would we start? All the onlyfansesque postings have her being too self conscious.

Any info is appreciated.