The mods at r/hotwife keep deleting my posts with no explanation.

Me and her are an interracial couple. I'm white and she's black. We have children together so the relationship is important to me. But she was older. She always wanted sex and would let me do anything to her.

But we got into the hotwife/stag fantasy from watching porn, to discussing a MFM but when I mentioned my performance anxiety in situations like that she said I could watch. I was jealous and turned on by this. I expected her to say she wouldn't do it if I wasn't going to fuck her too. I didn't think I could handle being there but didn't trust her, knowing how she is, to do anything without me. I still thought the threesome would be better for our relationship. Eventually I decided it wasn't healthy for me and we stopped fantasizing about it. I did tell her to go out and fuck somebody but she never actually had sex which helped with my feelings of inadequacy over performance anxiety. None of them could just do it on the spot either.

When she did this though she told me she had been flashing her pussy in what she had on, had one guy touch it and this got me going on it's own.

So lately we have been experimenting how she dresses. Yesterday we went to my family's. She was the only black person there and has a better body than any of the women much younger. She wore a short tight sweater dress, stockings and no panties. I have been getting lingerie too and had her wear the open cup bra I got her. You could see her nipples when she put it on but they became more visible later. I have a cousin younger than me, so a good bit younger than her that she had known since he was a teenager. In his early twenties now. He seemed to always like her but I think he acts a little weird or awkward but she says he's cute. So I told her to flirt with him.

Nothing crazy happened but she was just trying to be close to him, touching his arm leaning over and things like that. He was into it. Next time I do this it won't be around so many people because I wanted to at least see how wet she was there. We fucked four times before she went to sleep but I had to wake her up one time too so five. I'm thinking of trying more just around that cousin.

Do you think the flirting is a healthy middle ground? It makes me fuck her better and s lot more because it makes me jealous but without all the bad things of her actually fucking anybody else. She has suggested a FMF threesome but besides having sex with a new woman that just doesn't do it for me. What do you make of her and her personality?