I have been struggling with some of the guys we have been meeting. Mostly it's that they are shy/nervous, I don't know. What I do know is that they don't interact with me directly very much. They might tell Stag that they like me or think that I am sexy/pretty, whatever, but I'm not getting much direct feedback and it's frustrating.

I'm a performer, an entertainer. Nothing big. Just small town stuff. I sing, I act, I speak, I tell jokes. And I do this for the joy of getting that audience reaction.

You wouldn't know by looking at me, but I struggle with a low self esteem and my entire body trembles every time I take the stage. However, when the audience starts reacting and letting me know that they are enjoying what I'm delivering, almost all my insecurity goes out the window and I start giving them everything I have.

Move this scenario to the bedroom or even just to a date and it's amplified 100%.

I'm going to be scared and reserved and you will only get the muted version of me until you start feeding this performer what she needs.

Once, in the bedroom, the feedback does happen. (I mean, it's pretty obvious if the guy is excited.) But, I want to feel sexy and appreciated before that first touch. If I'm getting that direct and positive feedback when we are all just talking or chatting, I'm going to be excited about you joining us in our bed. Without it, I'm just a stress ball all the way leading up to any intimate encounter and it gets difficult for me to maintain my desire.

I NEED that "audience feedback". Without it, I'm just left with the never ending trembles and that gets exhausting and makes me want to give up at times.

So, to any singles reading this. Yes, you may be involved with the couple as a unit, but don't forget those words of affirmation and affection. Us Vixens need it.