I’m learning all about the community and have enjoyed roleplaying with my wife for a few years now. - we have a range of suction dildos that we roleplay during massage (she loves it). - have one hung toy that she makes noises on I’ve never heard before. - I’ve written some erotic fiction starring us and another guy. She’s told me it turns her on. - I’ve shared pics of celebrity crushes, and 1 actual pic of a hung guy from Reddit (“nice cock”) was the comment.

My question is around enjoying more in the lifestyle or dipping our toes into next steps on the adventure. We just had a frank and sober conversation along the lines of “fun as a fantasy but not in real life. Don’t want to do something I might regret for rest of my life.” Yet in reality, after a few drinks, she’ll say things like…kinda in the mood for a massage. Which is our code for roleplay.

How do I support a partner in feeling like they’re enough, while not completely denying this lifestyle is a turn on for me.