A little background on why I'm asking this with 100% sincerity. Before I met my husband (24 years ago) I had a bad experience giving oral to a partner I was dating when he came in my mouth with no warning. He event went so far as to hold my head in place and not let me move. It took me MANY years to get over this, with the help of my husband. He never expected me to "reciprocate" when he gave me oral and knew when I did he had to let me be 100% in control. Fast forward to current day where I love giving him oral and even, on occasion, allow him to be in control. I still can not handle the sensation or texture of cum in my mouth though. Knowing this, he and I have made it a rule that I do not perform oral on male partners for fear of going backwards on my progress.

So again, I ask, is not giving oral a deal breaker?