My husband is actively seeking sexual relations with strangers, but is denying me affection. He has told me he is unattracted to me and in the past 10 years I could count on one hand the amount of compliments he has given me. We spend no time together anymore. We live in a full house and both work, but when there’s time to be alone, we are separated. Our sex life is terrible. Neither of us are truly enjoying this.he would rather pleasure himself alone than have sex with me. I feel trapped and worse off I feel terrible about myself. My self esteem is completely shot. I feel disgusting in my own skin. I don’t know what to do. I can’t stand to be around him in fear of whether he’s disappointed in me daily or just straight ignoring my cries to fix this. At the same time he’s the only person I want.at times It feels like there’s nothing here anymore but resentment . He refuses to separate or divorce because of our children. We’re in our mid 30’s and feels like we’re wasting time.