I thought hair was an important part of appearance but I didn't realize just how important until I broke my arm and had to cut my curly hair because I literally couldn't take care of it. I got a buzzcut and felt free for a while, until I started noticing people judging. Everything changed when I got a wig that fit me well. Suddenly everyone was so nice!

When I had the buzzcut, as a woman, I felt many people even while just walking on the street would either stare at me or judge me. I am bisexual but I do feel like with that haircut that was a little androgynous, people always looked at me like they knew my secret. It made me look very queer but also a bit non binary (due to my style as well) and some people were not as nice to me. I felt a lot of people judging me, or men just ignoring me or not being interested.

I ordered a brown-red wig on shein and when I put it on, I was instantly transformed. I naturally have black hair but realized that this ginger/red hair suits me so well and brings out my skin tone. Actually ever since wearing this so many people thought I was naturally ginger and...white (normally I'm white passing, though not always). And also, ever since wearing this wig, people's behaviours completely changed.

I started noticing when I wore the wig, without changing literally nothing else about my appearance, people were just nicer to me. Guys were flirty, friends were nicer, people in shops were nicer, baristas would flirt with me. The world was my oyster, if only I was wearing the wig. I actually have a concrete example, and my Pretty Woman moment, that let me know it was my hair that changed everything.

I was looking to buy some boots and looking at shops. One day, with my short black hair, I walked into a store. Literally none of the people working there approached me, just ignored me, and I felt out of place in the chic shoe store. Two days later, I was at the mall again but this time I had ended up wearing my wig. I walked into the same store because I hadn't got to look before. When I walked in, the sale assistant greeted me smiling and proceeded to ask what I was looking for, then give me options, and spend quite a time giving me her opinions, searching for different sizes for me, and helping me pick. She was actually extremely nice. When I went to pay, it was another salesperson making the transaction and she was equally nice and called me "my dear". After this, I was in such a good mood (having got not only the shoes I wanted but also such good treatment) and I wondered: was it all hair? All it took was some good hair, that wasn't even my own, but a 10 dollar wig from shein, to change everything? Make the world a nicer place, make everyone a lot nicer, and make my life better?? It was just hair????

I don't know if some of it is me feeling confident when I put on the wig too and that exudes differently and makes people treat me better. But even at times when I wasn't confident, and felt self-conscious about wearing the wig, people still treated me nicer. So there it is. Hair, unfortunately, is everything.