To be fair and honest, I stole most of this content from another sub, but thought I would some really good advice to those here that are looking:

I always see the same mistakes repeated over and over, so I thought I'd take a few minutes to offer a little advice. Feel free to take or ignore as you'd like, these are just based off my personal observations over 15 years in the lifestyle, both as a solo M and as a couple.

One of the biggest complaints I always see is from guys saying that everyone is fake because they never meet anyone, or that nobody wants single males. Both of these are untrue.

While the majority of couples do look more for females or other couples, many are welcoming to solo males when they meet their criteria. But, most also don't broadcast that, became the minute they do they're inundated with mostly meaningless messages. Or messages from guys who don't come close to being what was asked for. We actually post for those from time to time, but it's a lot of work to sift through the results.

Guys, no offense, but you're a dime a dozen. So when a couple or female is looking for a male, give them a reason to choose you! If you post "I'm available" or "DM me" on their post, you're not going to be meeting them. If the best thing you can say about yourself is that you have free time, then there is no incentive for someone to want to meet you. And, again no offense, but saying your age & dick size doesn't exactly bump you to the top of any lines either. Send a private message, tell people why they should meet you. What experience do you have? Why do you think you'd be a good fit in this particular situation? What reason is there why they should pick you? And DON'T SEND A PIC OF YOUR DICK IN YOUR FIRST MESSAGE.

If you are posting an ad that has a picture of said dick...assume that most women and couples filter you out automatically and you are really just fishing for the gay men at that point. They are the only ones that likely want to see a picture of your junk.

If someone is looking for a female or couple, don't post and say "what about a male?" If they wanted a male, they would have said so. All this does is show that you aren't really interested in what THEY want, only what YOU want. Along the same lines, if someone is looking for a couple, don't say "I might have a girl that will join." That doesn't make you a couple. If someone wants a solo male and a solo female, they'll ask for that.

Be selective. As a couple, the first thing we do is look at someone's profile. If you have posted on dozens of ads every week, saying you want to meet, let's fuck, I'm available, etc, then the second thing we do is say "nope" and move on. Women like feeling wanted, guys, so show you want to meet HER, not anything with a hole & a heartbeat that's willing to.

When posting ads, stand out. Don't be that guy saying you're "hung" then posting a pic of your completely average dick. When you're in the 9 range, maybe say it, otherwise your delusions of grandeur are just silly. Posting a close-up of your cock and your age isn't going to get you anywhere. Don't take pictures of yourself in the dirty bathroom. Make a bit of effort here.

Stand out. Give people a REASON to pick you. Don't make minimal effort and expect to be waist deep in pussy, because it's not going to happen. Be articulate, spell check your post. Be respectful. Be mature. If you put in the effort, then the lifestyle CAN be rewarding, even as a solo guy.

Finally, if you aren't chosen, that's ok too. Everyone has their preferences and not everyone is a match. No one likes a sore loser though. Rejection isn't fun, but lashing back out because you didn't get picked isn't going to win any points either.

Couples and ladies, feel free to add your tips as well.

Guys, if you've done well, pass along the knowledge. If anyone has questions, ask them. That's what the community is for!