There’s a shockingly high amount of you that have created all sorts of false equivalencies and notions in your heads about what is required of a man and how you view women. To the point where some of it is downright dangerous, and while you all think this is some sort of safe space to air your ideas and theories, most of the bullshit you all spout is based in poor anecdotal experience, debunked pseudoscience, and outright misogyny. This is the kind of shit that lets the rest of these gora see us as this nerdy ass weak group of people rather than actually taking the approach of supporting each other, both men and women.

You put out the energy you want to receive - so if you’re constantly shitting on women for having dating preferences, while at the same time pushing the idea that you alone are the arbiter of which preferences are the “right” ones, you’re going to be disappointed every single time. It seems like for some of you this deep-seeded hatred probably comes from something else entirely. Some of you have body image issues and some of you just outright think that it’s the rest of the world at fault. I can offer you this piece of advice which has helped me greatly: go fucking talk to a therapist. Find an Indian or south Asian one who understands the dynamic of the diaspora too. It’s not about getting on Prozac, it’s about how to cope with what’s triggered you to have this toxic outlook on women and dating.

The other half of you need to just take a look in the mirror to realize why you’re so hateful. It all starts with you. There’s nobody else you can blame if you have a shitty worldview and see things the way you do. You might trick yourself into thinking you’re being a realist or a pragmatist or understand biology or how people are built…newsflash: you fucking don’t. You’re just a self loathing pud on Reddit that’s projecting their bullshit on targets of convenience: women.

You need to get over yourself and take it upon yourself to better yourself. If you’re stuck at home, figure it out. If you need to learn how to take care of yourself so you gain some level of self respect, ask for help. Stop buying into these utterly moronic ideas of alphas, betas, cucks, chads, simps or whatever the fuck else you think you know. I’m telling you you don’t know what the fuck you’re talking about and if that’s somehow offensive to your fragile sensibilities, then good it should be. If you’re so hateful to the world around you, they will not hesitate to leave you behind and rightfully so. If you don’t know how to go out and have a successful meaningful relationship, fucking ask. Don’t just sit around bitching about women wanting this or that or not dating them after a certain age.

Most of you seem young so you’ve got time to unfuck yourselves and get your shit together. But hiding in some dark corner bitching about why Indian women don’t date you or how they’re objects that aren’t worth your time while you straight up lust after them and ogle them every chance you get isn’t going to get you far in life.

Listen; don’t listen. Choice is yours. I look back on the mistakes I made and how I changed myself for the better and how I still need to grow, but I can tell you that making those changes has led to a better career, a fantastic marriage, and the opportunity to do some fun shit. If you just have someone to talk you you’ll see it makes a world of a difference.

Edit: spelling