So I (F Solo Poly) had a really lovely lunch the other day with my friend and her mom (mid 60s). My friend’s father / mom’s husband had died about a year earlier, and he was one of those everyone was relieved he died before people lost patience with feeling sorry for him and started hating him again types. He was sick for a while, and that was the only reason a bunch of his family started talking to him again. Dude was a jackass.

Her mom has been glowing since the guy died. Glowing. Mom is very clear she does not want to marry again. And is totally living her best life. Doing all the things she didn’t do with the dreadful husband. Travelling. Having a blast.

Anyway, turns out my friend (married monogamous) had told her about me being solo poly. I was expecting some push back. Instead she’s like “Nope. Makes perfect sense. You get the best of sex and dating, but without responsibility for a manchild.”

My friend kept trying to go the “but her local partner (happily married) is so lovely” (and seriously, he totally is. The guy is a walking advertisement for men), but Friend’s mom was still solidly in the “never live with a man” camp. She also may not see many benefits to dating men after getting married young to a complete dud.

Now she’s encouraging her single daughter (not my married friend) to follow this path. She herself, though, is not sure she has the courage / motivation to do it on her own. She lives in a small town and feels like people would be too judgey.

Just thought ya’ll (at least the ones who aren’t blokes) would be amused / entertained by that.

EDIT - clarified sentence construction to indicate friend’s mom not friend’s sister is considering solo poly.