I have 2 going on 3 partners. Established two are married/hierarchical. I host 100% due to children at home. One partner doesn't understand the emotional labor of hosting and consistently cancels, making me feel taken for granted. I expressed this concern. They requested time to think after giving me the silent treatment and getting angry when we spoke. I'm hurt and mourning the relationship. Wondering if anyone salvaged a similar situation by stepping back in feelings. I tend to be laid back but get extreme reactions when voicing concerns. Trying to work on not letting things build up.

PS we’ve been together 10 months and I’m not really wanting the kick him to the curb advice you see online quite a bit. He’s imperfect as am I, but there are a lot of good parts to our relationship. I just think I got too emotionally invested and would like to step back.

I’m also looking for advice on expressing what it feels like to be solo vs hierarchical. Has anyone here done both?

TIA