Posting here on the chill sub! Long story short, my family said my married partner is not and will never be welcome at their table for any kind of event and said a bunch of really hurtful things to me during the holidays. The usual sopo stuff, how I'm being used, he's cheating on his wife, how can he "do that to her?" when will I have a normal relationship, yada yada yada and all the bigotry and hate spilled out of my otherwise liberal family's mouths, and I've been reeling and healing since. They hoped it wasn't a choice between them or my partner (!) I tried to explain but it fell on deaf ears, and we've all been "on a break" from each other. Family, not partner.

I guess I'm just venting, and I'm really sad and appalled at my family's stance. I don't want to be around them, and the choice has emerged that I choose ME, and my mental health over this rubbish. Has anyone else dealt with this as a sopo? I never in a million thought they'd do this. If you had a family reversal of negativity, how did it happen? I know it's easy to say just let them go, but I'm older, and my family is small, and this is a significant thing for me. Has anyone ever maintained a good relationship with close family while a partner isn't allowed to visit? (Guessing not, but just asking.)