Alright so wife and i have been trying to figure out life out. I want to swing and about three years ago I brought it up to her. She isn’t against it, but also not at the same level as I am. She is polyamorous and is aware she is, and she has the freedom to act on her desires whenever she wants. She has had sex with one guy and the relationship continues to this day, just not the sex. She also has two coworkers who want her badly and know of her polyamorous lifestyle. I want her and feel okay with her doing whatever she really wants, I only ask that she informs me of the things that happen, if she made out, I like to know that. The only issue is is that she doesn’t think it necessary to tell me what happens. Sort of makes me feel weird. Also a huge problem in my mind is that I am not allowed to pursue anything if I want to. Like she doesn’t feel comfortable about that I have mentioned it isn’t right in my mind to no avail. What should I do?