We are looking for recommendations for a nice hotel in OC that has a hotel bar where single guys can be found for us to bring up to our room. This would be mainly for her, but I would be present and could possibly join, but not likely. We are new to this and learning how it all works.

We are just looking for “friendly” hotel recommendations at this time, not looking to set anything up with a specific individual…yet. She wants to dip her feet at a bar, alone, to see if she meets someone. I would be waiting in the room or watching from a distance. If there is chemistry, she would take them up to the room and I would watch. Or possibly just take him upstairs alone and tell me about it afterwards. Either way it will be her decision in the moment.

If things go well, we might do this as a regular occurrence and would be interested in meeting someone from here, but I don’t want to set something up only for her to have cold feet. Once we take the next step, and we both feel good about it, we can start getting to know others.