My brother & I come from a divorced family. My dad was a heavy drinker (still is to a certain extent). My mom isnt very involved in our lives. Whenever my dad began drinking heavily and anyone would tell him to slow down or cut back, he would always get defensive about it & say he is going to continue doing what he wants. When I visited him as a kid after the divorce, he would constantly drink and drive. It would give me extreme anxiety but I felt like I had no other choice because there was no one else around to pick me up. I'm sure my brother also witnessed this behavior himself.

My brother has already gotten a dui in the past. He served jail time, had his license revoked, and was also on house arrest. After that incident, I truly thought he had fixed his behavior since I hadn't heard of anything alarming but over the past few months my sister-in-law has been reaching out to let me know he has been coming home late from work while smelling like booze or suddenly disappearing after they argue only to end up finding out he has been drinking and driving.

I confronted him about this and tried helping him by inviting him to church with me because I told him it helped me overcome the trauma from our parents divorce and I truly believe it could help him too. Unfortunately he hasn't been able to stick to it because it always conflicts with my nephew's soccer games even though he and his wife enjoyed the service.

Recently, he was in a horrendous accident. He survived with minimal injures but I was extremely disappointed to find out he had been drinking and driving again. It's scary to see patterns I observed with our parents playing out right before my eyes with my brother's marriage and alcoholism. My sister-in-law is at her witts end (totally understandable). I plan on visiting him today and having a heart to heart. I believe he is in a place where he is ready to move forward since he had a near death experience. I desperately want to help my him overcome this in any way I can.

How should I approach this? It seems like he thinks he is alone here but I want to show him I'm ready to do whatever it takes. He is a man of few words so I expect to do most of the talking.

TLDR - how can I help stop my brother from following the same destructive path as our alcoholic father?