I'm not interested in a relationship at all right now, and I can't imagine that changing soon. In March, I left a toxic 8-year relationship, and to be honest, I'm loving my freedom. But I do miss sex, and I'm one of those people who can't do hookups and one-night-stands. I have to know you and like you as a person to fuck you.

The term friend is truly just as important as the term benefits here. I don't get out much. Partly because I'm naturally introverted (though the right people can bring me out of my shell), and partly because life happened, and a lot of my friends moved away, and I outgrew the ones that are still here.

As a friend, I'm looking for someone who:

• will get me out of my comfort zone, but in a slow and safe way. I'm enjoying trying new foods lately. I went to Dia de los Muertos and the opening of the Mission Inn Festival of Lights for the first time this year. My best friend is taking me to my first concert in July - Taylor Swift. To be honest, I'm not really a fan of hers, but I have started to say yes to experiences like these, because I'm so used to saying no out of fear and introversion, and I feel like I've missed out.
• will be active and outdoorsy with me. I've never been an active person, but I want to be. I hate the gym, though. This year, I want to try rock climbing, disc golf, hiking, archery, kayaking, camping and any other non-gym activities that sound fun.
• can balance all that activity out with some down time. Or will at least be understanding when I need to take a break to recharge. Remember, I'm an introvert, and my natural habitat is under a blanket in front of a tv. I'm usually binging a drama of some sort. I'm watching This Is Us right now. I will even attempt to play video games with you - IF you promise not to be a dick about the fact that I suck, and actually try to help me learn.

Sexually, I'm looking for someone who:

• understands consent
• can speak openly about desires and limits
• is receptive to feedback, and will provide feedback
• is kinky, but understands that the trust involved for kink is earned

A bit about me. I work in accounting and I work for the County. I share a house with my sister and brother-in-law because rent here is ridiculous. But my cat and I have the second floor all to ourselves. I'm 5'3" and thin, though not as thin as I'd like to be. I have some piercings and some small tattoos, and I plan to get more. When I'm not binging a new show, I probably have Gilmore Girls on in the background. According to my Spotify Wrapped, I can't decide if I'm a country girl or a metalhead. I like board games and card games. I’ve never gotten into role-play games like D&D, but I’m curious about them. I don't smoke weed. I'm not against it, but the smell makes me nauseous. I'm pretty left on the political spectrum, and I like my friends to be as well. Sexually, I enjoy power dynamics, and I have a bit of a praise kink. I have yet to explore kink very much beyond that, but I definitely want to.

I know I can be overly wordy, so if you've made it this far, thank you. If this kind of friendship sounds like something you're interested in, I'd love to chat, and if we vibe, I'd love to meet up!