It happened again.
It usually starts like this: I'll go on 4-5 dates within a couple of weeks, a lot of "nice" dates.
Some of the girls I've dated are still on the dating app 5 years later. Can we get a lifeguard in this dating pool? Because some of us are about to die of exhaustion from treading water all this time!
It can take me some time and effort to build enough trust with someone so that I can let out my aggressive / sexual nature along with my romantic, caring nature. When all the cylinders are firing it's great, but if all I give someone is my dark side I just have a fuck buddy I don't care about, whereas if all I give is my caring side, I end up with a friend I DO care about, but don't have any sexual chemistry with. WTF is wrong with me?
So when I say, "Can we skip to the good part" what I really mean is -- why does it have to take all this effort to combine the sweet and spice into the recipe of romance? Man.
In my twenties I had all sorts of time to build relationships and so I'm glad that I did. The problem is that when you're that young one or both of you are guaranteed to change, and that can lead to the relationship not working out. I am NOT the person I was in my twenties, thank God.
Now that my character is pretty stable, the time is all gone. You gotta love the irony! Gone are the college parties where it was easy to just meet someone, and I'm not really interested in clubbing (dancing at weddings is totally different). I do work full time and I pay a mortgage, I don't have roommates so all the groceries, bills, and house chores fall to me. It takes effort to count calories, meal prep, and wake up early to workout and stay in shape. You get it: "adulting is hard"
But can we skip to the good part? Because I'm tired of adulting alone.
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