I'm a 50-year old dashing nerd in the La Crescenta-Montrose area, 6'0", salt-and-pepper hair and green eyes, looking for my forever person who also has one or more of the following criteria: gothy, witchy, nerdy, kinky. Personally I'm a dominant-leaning switch - I think of kink and power-exchange as a really potent way to achieve incredible intimacy. Through the medium of shared surrender to each other, impact play, sensual domination, and loving, nurturing kink, we'll achieve a closeness and mutual trust that is, in my experience, unrivaled.

Do you like to have your hair pulled and be told you're a "good girl," but you want to be respected as an equal partner when not engaging in sexual play? Do you like being spanked, told what to do, thrown around a little, tied up, whipped, flogged or caned … but also want to be adored, cherished and well taken care of? Yeah, I want that too.

I want our partnership to involve dating and affection beyond the kinky; I want what I can provide, an emotionally available, affectionate, respectful long-term relationship. Your needs and desires will be respected, your safety prioritized; I hope for the same in return. I'm vaxxed and boosted, and you must be too.

I own my home, have a car and all that jazz. I am divorced (six years now) and have partial custody of my daughter, but she will not be a part of my dating life, just know that 50% of my time will be just for you and us. I have a couple of awesome dogs and a ruthless assassin of a cat. I'm an excellent cook and a bit of a foodie, I'm an avid reader and writer. I spend time in my workshop making (or fixing things) with my hands, but also goofing off with gaming; both video and tabletop. I'll be over the moon when I get to share any of those things with you.

Drop me a line, preferably by messaging and not chat. Send me a picture and I'll send you mine. I've got a "kink-list" too, if you want to see it. Dommes and switches are gladly welcome, too! I'll be especially pleased if your first message consists of something more than "Hey." Give me, please, some sense of who you are. Please be geographically close enough to actually frequently spend time together. And while I hope everyone finds the love of their life (or the railing they need at the moment) if you're anti-vax, conservative, or looking for a financial relationship, it won't be with me.