Dating in LA is tough, as you're no doubt aware, with the unusual schedules and the vast distances and the heavy workloads, and after having many nice first dates with very cool women with whom I shared no spark, I'm ready for a break. I'm starting to realize, also, that some aspect of my game is severely lacking. I've always been a bit shy about sex, plus a bit of a worrier about diseases and birth control and hurt feelings, and these factors combine to keep me from being assertive about my own needs and wants, and from just relaxing and enjoying myself.
So, I'm looking for a more casual situation, to take the pressure off, and a more sexual situation, to push me out of my comfort zone. I'm always impressed by the success stories in the dirtyr4r or random acts subreddits, but I'm not really a hookup guy and don't know that I could be. I guess I'm looking for an FWB, but since that term can mean different things to different people, I'd say I'm looking for a safe, sane, thoughtful woman interested in connecting and discussing our sexual needs, wants, boundaries, and interests, with the knowledge that
1) if we click we could consider moving further into a safe, sane, trusting, enthusiastic, mutually respectful and mutually satisfying sexual relationship that's up to us to define, AND
2) there's no pressure at all, and if we don't click sexually but are both feeling up to it, we can go get chicken fingers and fries because, gosh darnit, we're nice people who deserve nice things!
I'm 43, with brown hair and eyes, facial hair, trimmed nails, clean teeth, a warm smile, DDF, and a bit nerdy or professorial, though I'm neither. Love to talk to people and learn about them, so if any of these ramblings connect with you, I'd love to hear about it!
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