Hey SoCalR4R!

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I take note of all the comments made on my posts (ha, like there's even that many) and have noticed a lot of toxicity coming from a select few Redditors. From being called "fake" to people say i'm "bragging". I just wanted to address this and tell you WHY I post my successful meetups so often.

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I'll start by saying that if you think MY success post generate and messages from Redditors, you're REALLY wrong. My posts have NEVER, I repeat, NEVER generated messages from Redditors to meet with me. Those who I do get messages from are guys asking for advice about meetups. I do my best to reply to these giving my honest opinion and advice of how to message Redditors. Any guy can talk himself up. Literally anyone can. What HAS generated messages for me have been the success stories posted by the Redditors I have met with. Just so we're clear, if you aren't following, my goal with my success posts is not to fucking promote myself.

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I post success stories because I want to give Redditors hope that safe, comfortable, and enjoyable meetups between two strangers from the internet do happen. I've met with Redditors who have told me horrendous stories about being coerced into doing something they want, or arriving to a platonic meetup only to find the other party is expecting more, even just a kiss. PLATONIC MEETUPS ARE PLATONIC. If you get to go to a meetup and expect anything else than what was talked about, you're the problem. Safety is and should be the biggest concern for people. It takes only one bad story for somebody to doubt this sub or to just walk away. I want to help everyone who is searching for a friend, partner, gamer, fwb. I give detail and put effort into my posts so people get a sense of how they happen, what happens, and to show that people can be normal fucking people. Sure, i'll check my biases here, posting success stories can be self promotion and come off as bragging, I can totally see that. But why should there be such toxicity in this sub when there doesn't have to be? This is the internet, sure, but we should strive to have some level of respect and camaraderie. Why would anyone want to search for somebody on this sub if it's just going to turn into people hounding one another or giving somebody shit for actually having a good time?

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Anyway, see ya later Reddit.

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-B.

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tldr; I want this sub to promote safe and comfortable meetups, quit the toxicity and instead support one another