Hey everyone, I'm done with dating. I think we all know that it sucks out there and I'm just... so tired lol. But a girl has needs!

So if this interests you, please read on!

• I'm plus size, probably considered BBW. I'm comfortable in my skin and workout frequently, eat a healthy diet and all that. My body is what it is and I know how to use it for mine and my partner's pleasure. I do NOT want to be fetishized for it.

• I have a sexual trauma history and took 2 years off dating to deal with it. My sense is that if I feel safe with someone, it's all good. Which means YOU need to be a safe and consent minded man who can continue to be a safe person should an unanticipated trigger show up. We can discuss more with anyone I talk to seriously.

• I do well with guys who fall into the pleasure dom spectrum, who really really care about their partner's pleasure. I care about my partners pleasure, for the record but, to be fair, people with penises often get theirs a lot more often than those of us with vaginas :P I want a partner who ensures I get mine too, maybe several times over.

• I want to get to know someone a bit before I get naked with them. This isn't a meet up once and fall into bed sort of situation. This is a let's meet up a few times, build some trust, talk about sex, and mutually decide when we're ready to get naked (if at all, these things don't always work out lol).

-I don't want a full blown friendship because I think that leads to messy emotional places when sex gets involved. Discussing boundaries around the kinds of things we talk about and reach out to each other on will be important.

• Protection, healthy sexual hygiene, and all of that is very important to me. STD test results are expected, and happy to update and share mine too (last tested in my physical last October, but understand if you don't want to take my word for not having sexual contact since and would like a more recent test).

• Open to kink, am on the sub side, but prefer to co-create that dynamic with a partner versus listing a ton of preferences here. Probably softer kink than some of the hardcore stuff I see posted here.

• Preferences: I prefer clean cut men who know how to dress their bodies and groom well. Facial hair that is well maintained and short is not a problem. Not into long hair, long beards, or alternative/goth/metal looks. I'm 5'7 and prefer my height or taller. I don't have any strict body preferences, maybe a slight preference for the general dad bod. But it's case by case. Ethnicity doesn't matter hugely for me. Age range... I can be open minded if someone is really exceptional, but generally 30-45 yrs old is a preference. Not into dudes who need a stable of sexual partners to survive. I get having 1 or 2 or maybe even 3 regular FWBs to meet needs, but if it's a new hookup every night, a bunch of NSA encounters... miss me with that STD risk please, I'm not interested.

So, this was long, but thank you for reading it all. Shoot me a DM if interested with some thoughts on my post. I will ignore "hey" messages, "still looking?" messages, dick pics, copy pastas that are obviously copy pastas, and other low effort junk. Happy sexing, everyone!