Let's start at the end. When you chat with me after reading this, I'm not going to be a jerk or an asshole and spend our conversation telling you how hard I'm going to beat your ass and make you call me master. Instead, I'm just going to talk to you like a normal person.

Not because I don't like role playing / sexting, etc - I definitely do. But because real, genuine communication is the only way that I can learn about you and your unique qualities, share what's different about me, and help both of us make good decisions about whether we're mutually compatible. In other words, I'm serious about finding the right person, not just looking for an excuse to sext with whomever's free right now.

Also right up front, I should say that I'm looking for someone in the LA area (and not a tourist or someone on a business trip), and someone who is interested in a long-term setup (aka ownership), not just a hookup. If you're out of the area then I appreciate the interest, but that's just not what I'm looking for.

If you're an intelligent & independent woman, you know that finding the right Dom for you feels just about impossible. People just don't get you - most can't connect with you at your intellectual level, but even those that can do that don't get you emotionally. Women like you are strong and stubborn and have a very difficult time opening up and being vulnerable and building trust, especially if you've been hurt before. Your emotional state is much more complex, and most Doms don't even have the language, let alone the desire and ability to understand where you are and help you move forward. A smart, independent sub is literally the last thing they want.

But I've always had an special understanding and appreciation for intelligent women, going back to my teens. I like their talents and abilities and motivation, and even their stubbornness, and I enjoy spending time with them, talking, flirting, teasing, learning from them, etc. But I also see how intellectually and emotionally isolated they are, and how difficult it is for them to connect with other people. They are often their own worst enemy and toughest critics, and underneath their tough exterior they are surprisingly vulnerable, and can have high anxiety due to perfectionism that can be debilitating at times.

It takes some extra effort to connect with them, but it's worth it. Because intelligent & independent women need two things that a D/s relationship gives them. 1) The experience of existing in the moment (which gives them a break from their anxiety & judgmental mind), and 2) an opportunity to benefit from a coach / mentor, and every successful person has had someone in their life that fulfilled that role for them, helping them both to broaden their experiences and keep their focus. If you've ever tried to motivate yourself, you'll know why you need this.

Now we need a couple sentences about kink, so I'll just say if you want a Dom that can squeeze your nipples and finger your pussy until you're dying to get fucked, but then spank your bound and naked ass with a belt for being such a wet, desperate little whore, telling you that's exactly what you deserve, then I'm the guy for you. I know women need serious attention, intensity, and intimacy, even if they're not always able to ask for it, and that women like you especially thrive on discipline but still need to brat sometimes and get punished for it. And that every woman needs affection and to feel safe, secure, protected, and appreciated. Someone here understands the assignment.

I'm sure you have more questions for me, but this is already about 2x as long as I planned, so here's the point where you either hit the chat button and say hello, or you go back to your unsatisfying life and wonder what you missed out on and whether you'll ever find anyone that's a good fit for you or if it's all over and you're not going to make it. Didn't think I'd end on that note, did you? But I'm not going to apologize for wanting what's best for you.