Hello, eligible gentlemen of reddit! I know this is an incredibly horny subreddit and probably not the place at all for an attempt at authentic connection and dating. BUT, I figured I'd try anyways. Surely there must be some genuine people who would prefer to both develop a real connection with someone AND get laid?

Please be So Cal based (San Diego a stronggggg preference), and no younger than 28. I don't particularly have an upper age limit. Please be single, unattached. I prefer someone without children. Well thought out messages will stand out and I am determined to give a response to every guy who puts in some solid effort. I do quite enjoy sex, and a lot of it, but I never lead with sex and prefer to not be approached like a piece of meat. I prefer being approached as a human with thoughts and feelings first. Objectify me when I grant consent for it ;) Alright, with that said - on with my post!

I don't really know where I fit or who my people are - I just know them individually when I find them. I love gentle, caring and deeply kind people. All of the people I'm closest with have this sort of energy and it gives me life, makes me think and challenges me to be better. I'm told I have a very calm energy and make people feel safe, even though my mind can be a chaotic place to live within (who else has some mild anxiety going on? Better question - who doesn't?) I want someone who challenges me to be better every day - not by design, but just by their way of existing in the world. And I hope I can offer the same.

I love the gym and working out, but my physique wouldn't tell you that. Don't underestimate me, though. I can currently deadlift 245 lbs and bench 157, and I'm barely at the beginning of my weightlifting journey with a huge amount of potential in me. I'm also a SCUBA diver and lifting makes all the diving I do that much easier. It's important to me that the person I date also enjoys fitness and adventures. I'm going to Hawaii for diving later this year, and I've entered into my first powerlifting competition, which I'm now training for.

I am a deep thinker and deeply introspective, a verbal processor who loves having feelings and talking about them (you will have to embrace and love this about me because it won't change - I can promise you will never have to read my mind because I will just tell you what's on it). But I don't have a pretentious bone in my body; instead I bring plenty of spunk and sass and I will absolutely tease you mercilessly. So I often don't fit in with the hippie, granola "deep thinker" crowd, who always has their nose in philosophy and mindfulness books.

I love musical theatre - nothing is better than a night watching a performance unfold on stage. And I sing and at one point wanted to be on stage. But I never really fit in with the theatre nerds either. Believe me, I tried! I did improv classes for a while but it just never felt like the right place for me.

I'm deeply emotionally sensitive - it's my super power. But I'm also very extroverted and find time with my people life giving. Fun fact: this puts me in 6% of the population, if research on HSP is to be trusted. So not many that I relate to on that level, and that can be hard.

I'm on reddit, but I am not a video game player, anime watcher, stereotypical nerd, or homebody. So do I really even fit in here?

If you can't tell by my post, I tend to often feel like an outsider, a perpetual wallflower, except when I'm with the people I love. And I'd like to find someone who loves all of these quirks that make me who I am, maybe even find them inspiring. I'm open to friendship, I'm open to romance, I'm open to whatever. Connection is deeply important to me and I want to make a human connection. Are you in?