So this may be unpopular and i’m sorry if it comes off as arrogant. I myself am a larger dude. I’m tall which i’m sure helps. I also feel like although i’m fat i’m still attractive. So with that out of the way, let me shoot you what I think is the best practices for meeting women on any site.

Try to be unique - online dating is about numbers and being unique enough. Women typically have a wide list of choices but are overwhelmed. Be someone or something that stands out. Even if it comes off as boisterous or narcissist. I list that i’m 6’8” in almost every post. It’s rare. It’s attractive. It helps a fuck ton. Maybe you’re a D1 athlete? Maybe you own a home? I don’t know. Find something attractive and unique about you.

Cast a wide net - i’m on tinder, hinge, bumble, Reddit, fetlife. I post the same ads on most of them whenever the time frame allows or my prospects dwindle. It sounds like a ton of work and it can be. But once you’ve got your profiles running they’ll pay off eventually. Personally i feel each app changes in popularity.

You will be rejected and ignored. A lot - if you can’t handle rejection, you’ll never succeed.

Don’t over share - most of these women are skeptical of everything, rightfully so. I’m a weird dude. I’m a nerd. I have a ton of trauma. I don’t share that shit lol. Maybe after 3-4 dates I’ll open up, but not with someone i’m just meeting.

Practice - if you’ve never dated or have social anxiety… force yourself to get out and talk to people. Get out with what friends or family you have. Join a group. Make yourself talk to people. Eventually you get the hang of at least not being a creep.

If all else fails when talking to her, be quiet - let them speak. Let them tell you what they want/feel/think. If they have any interest in you at all. They will.

If you want casual sex be up front about it - don’t waste your or their time. A lot of people here want sex and kinky ass sex. A lot don’t. Be up front.