I'm a wicked smart single dad (50/50 custody) with a great career, house, all the trimmings of a life with my stuff together; two dogs, a horse, friends, hobbies, passions. I am a leader in a technical field with a large mouse-themed company.I'm originally from the East Coast (Philly, yo!) but have been in California for 17 years now, and this is my home. I've got a great place in the foothills (Tujunga) with stunning views, lots of nature, and not too far from the buzz of the city. I love to cook, and to entertain, I love socialization in intimate settings, but you probably won't find me at a nightclub or a festival. Camping in Big Sur? Absolutely. A cheerful pub with friends? Definitely. I'm an avid reader and writing is one of my biggest creative outlets. And I am definitely a nerd - my friends and I play Dungeons and Dragons, I have seen all the Marvel movies, and I can quote Lord of the Rings by heart.

I have core values that inform my life and behavior; social justice, saving the planet, compassion, empathy and upholding human dignity are very important to me. I'm way left of center in my politics, and it matters to me that you feel similarly.I don't smoke (unless the occasional edible or vaping counts...) and am not a heavy drinker, but sharing a bottle of wine or mixing up some cocktails over dinner is something I savor. I do have a tremendous sweet tooth, and for that reason I am doing intermittent fasting...and undoing the comfort eating of the pandemic one day at a time! It's an ongoing process, I'm fit, but still getting fitter. I'm vaxxed, and will continue to be, a position on which I won't compromise.

I want to fall deeply, madly in love with someone with whom I will share an incandescently passionate forever bond. We won't be able to keep our hands of of each other; frequent, nova-hot sex, physical intimacy, and kink are all must-haves for me. But just as important is someone who I will never run out of things to talk with, someone whose mind is sharp, wit is quick, and has a loving and compassionate heart. We'll round each other's hard edges, we'll sharpen each other's soft spots, we'll look forward to sharing everything so the bad things are a little less bad and the good things are that much better.

The person for me will be feminine or androgynous, intelligent, funny, either is a nerd or loves nerds, and ready to make a lasting connection. I don't introduce people to my daughter until I'm pretty sure we're going to go the distance, but my potential person should be aware that a lasting commitment will mean, someday, when our foundation is rock solid, a family. If she has kids, they'll get along with my daughter, and she'll understand I also have pets that I have to take care of. So either our lifestyles are similar enough that with lots of love and communication, all this will work out - or she is flexible enough to adapt. I know that's a challenge; one of the perils of having built such a great and satisfying life for myself is that it does mean I'm a little less flexible than I was in my youth ... but for the right person, the view is worth the climb! I don't care about age; I've met much younger partners with whom things meshed very easily because we wanted the same things and kept a similar schedule (I'm a morning person!) and I've met people my own age who had vastly different lifestyles, and for all the love in the world, it just wouldn't work. Please live close enough to the LA east-side/valley to spend lots of quality time together, or be willing to come to mine ... I've usually got to end up at home for the dogs!

I default to monogamy or monogamish, but am not inexperienced with polyamory, and could see that being a connection that works - though I am looking either a primary/nesting partner, or someone who wanders in and out as she pleases, like an outdoor cat. In the latter case, if that describes you, just understand I will still be looking for a primary. The less vanilla you are the better; I'm no longer interested in a relationship in which we aren't enthusiastically interested in scratching all of each other's itches, indulging all of our kinds, fantasies and fetishes, and aren't deeply thrilled to leave each other breathless and satisfied. I'm particularly interested in finding someone proficient in, or interested in tantra, too.

All of us want and deserve love, and if you've read this far, I hope you find yours...especially if it leads you to me. Send me your picture and I'll send mine, I'm 6 feet tall, 230 lbs, green eyes, salt-and-pepper hair, ruggedly handsome and ready to find the love of (the rest of) my life.