So I’ve been streaming on twitch and tiktok recently and playing Minecraft a lot with a friend from across the county. I love both him and his girlfriend, but she has this habit of constantly relating things people say to trauma, and it can be really off putting, kill the vibe of a conversation, and honestly is the reason I don’t typically converse with her much outside of talking with my friend.

I like streaming with him and sometimes she asks to join the game, and today she did when we happened to be on stream. I felt kinda bad because she makes this honestly annoying moan/whine sound when we are playing games sometimes and she did it within like a minute of streaming and I didn’t really think about what to say before I said “oh my god please stop” and she didn’t do it for the rest of the 2 hour stream. Part of me doesn’t want to start conversations with chat because I’m afraid she’s going to just start trauma dumping on stream and make things weird and uncomfortable.

What’s a nice way to start to conversation here? I feel a little stuck. I understand she uses it as a tool to relate to the conversation and I wouldn’t want to take that tool away from her, but I can literally feel my energy for the day just evaporate when she starts doing it.