With an ex, as our relationship was falling apart, we got into kink and BDSM as a way to try and save our relationship. One thing that really did it for both of us was FemDom and CFNM (clothed female nude male) play.

One day I walked into her apartment and saw an empty box next to her door. She told me that a new rule she had for me was that anytime I walked in I was to strip, leave my clothes in the box, and I couldn’t get dressed again until I left.

That led to all kinds of fun for us. Me naked all the time, her fully clothed. It turned simply everyday things into sexual play. If we watched a show together, she would keep me hard the entire show. If we were both sitting on the couch reading she’d use her feet to play with and distract me.

It kept our relationship going for a little while. I think back fondly on those times and hope to find something like that again.