One of the most embarrassing experiences I had was my first attempt at a blowjob.

It happened when I was a first-year university student and only started dating my first real boyfriend, Wojtek. Wojtek was a sweet nerdy guy. He was my second sexual partner, but I was his first girl and he had been a virgin until he met me. So, with him felt like an experienced woman, even though I was 19 and did not really know what I was doing. 

Once, when we were having fun at his place, I decided to perform a blowjob. I had seen this previously in porn, and it looked easy: you just take penis in your mouth and start sucking. What can go wrong?

I laid him on his back on the bed, and gently pulled his pants down. His cock was fully erect. Then I took his shaft in my mouth and started sucking. I tried to take him deeper, but even before I could take him really deep, the gag reflex hit, and I vomited.

I felt so terrible!

I rushed to the bathroom, coughing and crying. Then we both took the bedsheets to the washing machine.

"Sorry," I said. 

"It's okay," he responded. 

I tried to initiate sex again, but he said he was no longer in the mood.

On the next day, I told Miriam everything.  Miriam was my friend, she was my age, but she already had been far more experienced than me.

 "Rookie mistake, " she said, "You tried to deepthroat without desensitisation first."

We were hanging out in my dorm room. We were supposed to study, but of course we were discussing other matters.

"What?"

"God in his wisdom," Miriam started, "Created a gag reflex to protect our throat from unfamiliar objects... I will wash my hands and come back!"

She went to the bathroom and came back in minute.

"Open your mouth!" she ordered.

I trusted her, so I obeyed.  Also, there was something erotic in her issuing commands to me.

She touched my cheek with her palm. It was soft and cold. Then she inserted her thumb and pushed it deep, into the back part of the roof of my mouth. I gagged.

She quickly removed her finger.

"What was that about?"

"That area is called soft palate," she explained, "It's your first bastion.  It's the first area that triggers gagging. Most likely, it was responsible for your fiasco with Wojtek."

I already hated my soft palate!

"Let's try again?" Miriam asked.

I wanted to try again. I wanted to conquer that bastion, but I also wanted to feel Miriam's fingers again.

She put her palm on my cheek. It was warmer now. She pushed her thumb back into the back of my mouth again. I gagged again, but this time not immediately. I was able to hold the reflex for a second or even two.

"You're doing better!" Miriam exclaimed.

I smiled. I was happy because I was making progress with my soft palate and because I managed to earn her approval.

"The gag reflex is triggered by unfamiliar objects,” She explained, “As the objects are becoming familiar, it weakens. You've almost conquered the first bastion. The second one is your pharynx."

I was still skeptical. 

"Imagine you have two dogs," Miriam continued, "They don't like strangers. But imagine you have a friend. The first time he comes, they bark or even bite. The second time, they growl but not as aggressively. If he comes often, they grow accustomed to it and stop reacting at all."

"Oh, I see," I responded, "So, the friend is Wojtek's cock." 

"Exactly!" Miriam exclaimed, "You're such a good student!"

 I liked that she was praising me.

"Wait a minute," I said, "So I will have to gag on Wojtek's cock until those two dogs would calm down?"

"Not really," she said, "Any cock will do. Even the artificial one. Do you have a dildo?"

I blushed. I did not have a dildo.

"You definitely need to buy one! And train with it! You can use a toothbrush. But a dildo is better."

We continued chatting. Miriam reassured me that I did not really need to deepthroat Wojtek to be able to drive him to the edge. She explained some tricks to me and even demonstrated some on her dildos. Because of course she had more than one.

So next time when Wojtek and I were together, I felt prepared.

I laid him on the back and pulled his pants down.

"You don't have to do this if you don't want to..." He started. Such a sweet guy! But I was determined.

I got on my knees. I placed my hands on his hips. I bent over and started licking the area between his anus and his balls. "This area is sensitive, but many women neglect it," I remembered Miriam's teaching.

My hands were massaging his inner thighs, as Miriam had taught me that a good blowjob was not just about the shaft but about the whole area.

I gently cupped his scrotum with my hand. As Miriam had instructed, I found a seam between the testicles and carefully pressed along this line. Wojtek's beathing deepened. I took my time delicately licking his testicles.

"Just enough to tickle his nerves," I was hearing Miriam's voice in my head.

Then I moved my attention to his shaft. I started at the very base. I touched it with my tongue, covering as much of its surface as the area of my tongue allowed, and dragged the tongue slowly upwards. I wanted the warmth of my tongue penetrate him.

As I reached the mid-shaft, I increased the pressure, tracing his veins. As I was approaching the top, I started creating a zigzag pattern with the tip of my tongue.

Then I gently pull down his foreskin. I found the ridge where the tip of the cock met the rest of the shaft and traced it with my tongue. 

"It's an area with many nerves, but don't be gentle! Press your tongue as if you want to strangle it," I remembered Miriam's words.

Wojtek moaned louder.

"Don't stop! Please! Don't stop," he sounded almost desperate.

Then I reached the tip of his cock and started flicking rapidly. I was also tasting his pre-cum. Then I repeated the whole process three or four more times.

He was moaning and panting. His penis was throbbing. I wrapped my lips around his penis took it in my mouth. I only took him up to my soft palate, which was desensitised by then, but not further.

I started moving my head up and down. Miriam had taught me that rhythm was most important for this stage, so I maintained the steady rhythm for several minutes. Every movement started with a gentle massage of his tip with my lips and my tongue. 

Wojtek was moaning. He was trying not to scream.

Suddenly, he erupted.

I felt the hot jets of his seed hitting my mouth. It was a lot of cum, but I sucked and swallowed as if my life depended on it. Wojtek moaned and shivered.

When I finished, he looked spent.

"Oh my god oh my god " He kept repeating. He could not utter anything else.

I hugged him, placing my head on his chest.

I was happy and satisfied because I had finally redeemed myself after my previous disastrous attempt.  But the greatest satisfaction didn't come from Wojtek's reaction, but from knowing how proud Miriam would be of me.